When I was a very junior professor, around 1990, I travelled to a regional philosophy conference where, it turned out, I was the only woman attending. At the reception on the first day, everyone avoided eye contact with me (let alone conversation!) until a senior male philosopher started chatting with me amicably about philosophy. There was nothing flirtatious about it–just collegial. I still feel profoundly grateful to him for relieving my feelings of awkwardness and showing the other males present that young single women in philosophy are first and foremost colleagues.