I was the only female participating in a weekly philosophy reading group. Several times guys in the group used curious examples that I felt were selected to send a message to me or to make me feel like an outsider (or to remind them that they were insiders). For instance, one example that came up went something like this, “suppose we had a bunch of money and went out and got a bunch of hookers”. Maybe that’s just the way philosopher-guys talk when they get together without women. But even if that were the case, this was not one of those “without women” get-togethers and I’m pretty sure that they hadn’t just forgotten that.