How not to deal with a name change

Posted: April 20, 2013 by Jender in trans issues in philosophy

After transitioning and changing my name about a year ago, I asked a colleague to change the name under which he thanked me in a forthcoming work. This simple request turned into a friendship-ending email correspondence in which he insisted that he wasn’t wrong and failed to understand how hurtful this response was even after I explained. Moreover, although all of my correspondences were polite and understanding, his were increasingly aggressive and accusatory. All this from someone whom I’ve worked with closely, and who used to be one of my most important professional references.

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